Saturday, January 19, 2008

My Dad Passed Away

Originally Posted on Sat, Jan 19 2008 @ 10:36 PM [EST]
















My dad passed away today. He went peacefully.



If you are interested in reading the obituary, feel free to contact me at truckin.tedybehr@gmail.com



Your thoughts and prayers would be appreciated.



Comments

I hope this doesn't sound cruel,but I'm glad it was over quick and didn't suffer too long. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
Comment By:Roadhzrd on Sat, Jan 19 2008 @ 10:41 PM [EST]


I am so sorry for your loss..I don't know what to say..I wish you and your's well...VM-out!.. Comment By:VM on Sun, Jan 20 2008 @ 4:15 AM [EST]


TT, I am truly sorry and I feel for you in your loss. If there is anything that I can do, please feel free to ask.
Comment By:lenutt on Sun, Jan 20 2008 @ 7:02 AM [EST]


I want to thank you all for your kind words. We are also glad that it was over with quickly and peacefully. If you don't have life insurance, do it for your family. Dad didn't have any, and now we are trying to come up with the $6500 to pay for his funeral. -TTB
Comment By:Truckin Tedybehr on Sun, Jan 20 2008 @ 12:05 PM [EST]

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Another Update On Dad #2

Originally Posted on Tue, Jan 15 2008 @ 2:48 PM [EST]

Just to keep you updated. Dad has decided to stop all treatments. He has fully come to terms with everything and he is ready to go. He is tired of being sick and hurting all the time. Some people may not agree with his decision but we (his family) fully support him in it.

Medically, he could probably last another few weeks but we feel that once he has seen all the people he feels he needs to, then he will let go. We've already seen a rapid decline in his physical health. We believe this is because: 1) he is no longer fighting it and 2) he has been so busy visiting with family and friends (his place hasn't been empty since we started notifying people) that he hasn't been resting.

The next post will probably be to tell you that he has passed on. I ask that you pray that his remaining time and his passing is peaceful and pain free

Saturday, January 12, 2008

Another Dad Update

Originally Posted on Sat, Jan 12 2008 @ 2:08 AM [EST]

Sorry I haven't posted lately. I wanted to jump on and give a quick update on my dad. Just a reminder that he has kidney failure and chronic lymphocytic leukemia. His leukemia was in remission for almost a year when it kicked back in some time in October. It kicked in so badly that he hasn't been able to do the full blown chemo drugs because they would kill him. Instead, he has been getting a 'maintenance' drug that they hoped would bring his leukemia under enough control that they could give him the full blown chemo drugs.

As my wife and I had already figured out, the 'maintenance' drug hasn't worked. We spoke with his doctor today (opps...it is after midnight so I guess it would have been yesterday - Friday) and there has not been enough improvement. He has undergone 6 of 8 'maintenance' drug treatments and the doctor basically told us that it isn't working and that dad will NOT get any better. His body is slow deteriorating. Well, this news has finally forced dad to come out of the 'land of denial' and accept the reality of it all.

His next decision will be whether to continue treatments for his leukemia and dialysis for his kidneys and prolong things a little longer, or to stop all treatment. If he continues treatment, it will prolong his life some but to be honest, it would probably end up being a slower, more painful death. If he discontinues all treatment, he will die sooner, but we can get hospice to come in and make him comfortable. We have no idea how long he has left. If he stops all treatment, it could be weeks or months depending on what actually catches up to him first; an infection of some type or something from the affects of his kidney failure (congestive heart failure, etc.)

Today has been rough on him (as you can imagine). We've started making some phone calls to let people know. I will be meeting with my brothers tomorrow to fill them in and to explain to them how bad things are. Up to this point, dad has asked us (my wife and I) not to tell them how bad things were. He figured there was no need for them to worry. Now, they aren't stupid so they've figured out that things were bad. Tomorrow, I get to tell them that our dad will not get any better and that he is dying. Not the weekend activity I was looking forward to this weekend. Anyone want to tell them for me?

We will continue to contact family and friends so that they will have time to stop in and visit with him before things get worse. We've started discussing end-of-life arrangements with him (funeral, what things he would like to go to certain people, etc). We have hospice coming on Monday to discuss options with dad and another appointment with his doctor on Friday. After those appointments, we expect dad will make his decision on how he wants to proceed (continue treatment or stop all treatment).

Well, my quick update turned out not to been so quick after all. I'll jump off here for now. Be safe out there. -TTB


Comments

Sorry to hear he hasn't responded to treatments. I know what your going through. We watched cancer get our dad. It was a very hard time. It wasn't easy being out on the road during that time. Our prayers will be with your family during this time.
Comment By: Roadhzrd on Sat, Jan 12 2008 @ 8:43 AM [EST]

Thank you very much Roadhzrd. Your thoughts and prayers are very much appreciated. We can use all the prayers we can get.
Comment By: Truckin Tedybehr on Sat, Jan 12 2008 @ 10:49 AM [EST]